What Women Really Think About Anal Sex
If you ask a man, there’s nothing not to like about anal sex: it’s different, it feels tighter, and because it isn’t as common as vaginal intercourse or oral sex, it feels a little risque. Though many men may question if their girlfriend is really into the whole other-hole situation down there, it’s estimated that around 86 percent of women have at least triedanal sex, even if it’s something they haven’t added into their sexual routines. But if you’ve gone to the backdoor with your lady more than once, you may wonder what the experience is like for her -- and if it gets her as hot as it gets you.
The answer from women who have tried it -- and liked it? Yes, it definitely gets them turned on (why else would they do it, huh?) but it’s for different reasons than you would think. Here, women share what their experience of having anal sex is like -- complete with GIFs, because, ya know, sometimes something so dirty requires a little humor:
DECIDING TO TRY IT
“My boyfriend and I had been dating for three years and he had always wanted to do it, and I was always scared. But it was his 30th birthday, we just got engaged and I thought it was worth a chance,” says Hilary, 31, from New York. She added that her decision was made because she was so comfortable with him that she knew she could trust him with something very sensitive and potentially painful.
BACKEND GIRL CHAT
If you’ve wondered if women talk about their sex lives in vivid detail, you’re right. Especially about this: “My best girlfriend and I drank a bottle of wine and spent hours Googling about what to do to prepare, what it would feel like and what to do afterwards,” says Katie, 27, from Chicago. “My then-boyfriend didn’t know any of that, but if I hadn’t had talked to her, I would have never been comfortable going through with it.”
SETTING GROUND RULES
For most women, it was important to set some basic guidelines with their partner before beginning the act. “My boyfriend and I talked about how we would take it slow, he would listen and stop at any point it felt really, really bad,” says Hilary. While it might seem like a great idea to get drunk together and try it, having some basic parameters around how it’ll go down and how you’ll handle it will strengthen your bond and intimacy, and make it a more enjoyable experience for her. (Which means she would likely do it again!
AN HOUR BEFORE YOU GET THERE
If you’re curious about what she’s doing before the grand evening, it goes something like this: “I probably showered ten times before we had anal for the first time,” says Madison, 29, from Miami. “I was so anxious about smells and stuff that I wanted to make sure everything was really clean.” Other women also reported that they ate very clean for the day so there, um, wouldn’t be noises, and some others got Brazilians in preparation.
“My husband tried so, so, so hard to make the foreplay before we had anal really sweet and gentle, but all I was thinking the whole time was about how he was going to stick it there,” says Nicole, 36, from Denver. “Even though it wasn’t as great as foreplay usually is, it was definitely nice to have a lead up.” Experts even recommend having traditional intercourse before having anal because it loosens up and relaxes her before trying something so jarring.
WHEN IT BEGINS
Even if you’ve done everything right, bought great lube and warmed her up, there’s no doubt about it: it’s going to hurt. And likely, pretty bad at first. “When my boyfriend and I had anal for the first time, he had me take deep breaths as he slowly went in,” Katie says. “It was painful with every single movement until he was completely inside of me, and then after a minute, it started to feel good.”
WHEN IT STARTS TO FEEL GOOD
After the show gets started, the walls begin to stretch a bit and that adds a great amount of pressure to a woman’s G-spot, making the sensation of anal sex way more intense than vaginal. “I love when I’m having anal with my guy and he starts touching my clit, it really sends me over the edge,” Nicole adds.
“The worst part about anal sex, frankly, is when he finishes,” Hilary says. “Since we’re married and we don’t do it with a condom, the clean up is terrible.” If you’re having unprotected anal -- and you both got checked out first before doing so, ahem! -- keep in mind that a woman must lay for at least 10 minutes before getting up, and even when she does go to the restroom, the process of getting clean may take a while. “My husband and I probably have anal once a month or so, and he knows to let me be for a good hour after we’re done,” she adds.